The Big Question.
After a lovely day of being pampered on Mothers’ Day, I began to wonder why we restrict ourselves to special days to take special care of ourselves.
On Mothers’ Day I enjoyed a lovely walk along the beach with my husband, I drank my coffee while watching the boats, talked to my children on the phone, and took a night off cooking. It was delightful.
So why don’t we do this nice stuff more often? Why don’t we make the time to take care of ourselves? Why is it only on Mothers’ Day or our birthdays that we can allow ourselves to have some down time?
Something to Remember.
Some years ago, when I was trying to keep things together in the midst of a nasty divorce, I was speaking with my Dad.
“I have to make sure the kids are okay,” I told him. “They are my top priority.”
My Dad looked at me, took my hand in his, and told me, “The most important thing you can do for your kids is to take good care of their mother.”
At the time I don’t think it really sank in. I had so much on my mind and, in my usual manner, I was overthinking everything. I didn’t have time for myself. I had to be brave and carry on. I got through it. The kids got through it. We settled into a new pattern of life. I worked hard, was successful in my career, remarried, continued to work hard and life went on. I had the occasional coffee date with a friend but, as usual, down time was not a priority.
However, with the upheaval of the past twelve months, the entry into retirement, the relocation to a new state, the building of a new home, I totally forgot about myself. I was too busy being upbeat and getting things done – being all things to all people.
It wasn’t until my mind and body went into collapse mode that Dad’s words roared through the halls of my memory and I realised that I need to take care of myself if I want to be of any use to myself or anyone else.
So here’s what I do now. I made a list of 20 things I could on a regular basis to give myself some Me Time. Everyday I check off one of the self care items on my list. I allow myself to take care of myself. I know that I need to do that if I am to be the best version of myself and thereby be the best wife, mother or friend that I can be.
The Checklist is here for you to download for your own use. I hope that it will help you to unwind and ease your mind.
Remember: The Best Thing you can do for those you love is to TAKE CARE of Yourself.